Bar and bat mitzvah invitation templates

A familiar form reads: “With pride and joy, we invite you to share in the bar mitzvah of our son, Ari, as he is called to the Torah.” Then add the date, time and synagogue, followed by the party details. Some families include the child’s Hebrew name or the week’s Torah portion.

Six to eight weeks before is usual, with replies due three to four weeks before so you can confirm numbers with the caterer. Send a save the date six months or more ahead if relatives will travel. In a busy year for classmates, an early note helps friends keep your date free.

Traditionally a boy becomes bar mitzvah at 13. A girl becomes bat mitzvah at 12 or 13, depending on the community. The ceremony is often held around that birthday, though the timing varies, and some adults choose to celebrate one later in life, so the invitation needs no age unless you want one.

Yes, non-Jewish friends are commonly invited, though practices differ, so ask if your synagogue has guidance. A line on the invitation about dress and the length of the service will help them. Many synagogues offer head coverings at the door, and whether guests are expected to wear one depends on the community.

Money is a common gift, and many people give in multiples of 18, a number linked to the Hebrew word for life. Books, jewellery and donations to a cause are also welcome. Invitations usually leave gifts unmentioned. Check with the family if unsure, as some teens choose a charity project they would like supported.